I couldn’t write this letter. I wouldn’t write this deepest sympathy letter. I’d rather not.
Why would you let the agonizing person know how sad things are? Why would you focus on his/her miseries instead of cheering up? A prayer would go well for this kind of situation. The person would be happy knowing you would join him/her in prayer. But be sure to do this prayer promise, or else, you will be judged for fooling people saying you’d pray for them.
No one wrote to us when my Dad died. My mother wouldn’t understand. Neither could I. Maybe, had we got one, it’ll add to our misery. And though how kind the words in the letter might be, it will still cut like a knife. And though it is appreciated, I would soon forget it for sympathy can never be fully expressed by mentioning it repeatedly. Sympathy becomes complete only by sitting beside someone in quietness. It is also realized in a prayer, and prayer, and more prayers.
I could remember, in my younger days how it was like a parade when my father died. And when everyone tried to join us, even his colleague (lowest rank to the highest positions) visited and went with us until my Dad got to his finish destination: 7 feet under.
And there were prayers from time to time from friends and family, and cards of prayers. I think these mattered most because someone died, for both the living and the dead need the assurance of God’s caring.
How would you write your deepest sympathy letter then? Would you enumerate every feeling of grief and detail of sadness? Would you, if afar, burst in crying pages of interrogation to give hints for justice? Would you write in madness to show how it breaks your heart, as well? How would you do them?
How would you write I grieve with you, and I empathize with your pain?
Would your letter cut open your chest and show how your heart bleeds? No, that will not suffice.
How about a letter of affection? And in a letter full of prayers showing God’s presence like a mountain that connects lands, and oceans that connects spheres, and air that sustains the magnificence of heaven?
A deepest sympathy letter would come best in a letter of affection and pleadings from God, writing nothing but of love; I grieve because I love. Let God suffice the longings of your heart. Let me wipe your tears with my kisses and let me hold you tight in my silence. I’m meant to love you. I love you.
The basic rule of writing is to make a clear sentence. That one basic rule embodies more rules that include basic grammar rules, thought building, and a way to communicate or express oneself in a language.
Knowing grammar entails being familiar with the parts of speech: noun, pronoun, adjective, verb, adverb, preposition, conjunction, and interjection.
Each part of speech embodies a set of rules, as to how each part should coordinate with the other parts of speech in writing a sentence. A sentence is written, and analyzed as to idea, construction, or style. Different languages display various basic sentence patterns, like the English language.
When a child, words are learned from the foundations of vocabulary building and thought building. Later, many forms of literature are available. So this one basic rule is easy, as it is hard. Remember the Kiss Theory, “Keep it simple stupid.” Sorry for the negative connotation, but that word was emphasized to make us remember how to make a good sentence.
Have this in mind:
A sentence must have unity, coherence and emphasis.
A sentence has unity when it expresses a single complete thought. The sentence contains only significant details. Unity is oneness.
A sentence has coherence when the parts of the sentence have an apparent and logical relationship with each other. The idea is expressed in a logical manner and/or a consistent manner.
A sentence has emphasis when a word or idea shows clearly what is important. The emphasis helps in an expression of a strong idea; a strong sentence.
After the sentences, paragraphs are built. A good composition follows from the effective paragraphs, after good sentences are made and/or written. Again, the paragraphs require unity, coherence, emphasis, until all revolves and highlights a complete thought. The complete thought could be shown from a topic sentence. In a more formal paper, the complete thought is the thesis, which is supposed to be supported with significant details.
Know by heart the use of proper punctuations. Know the rules of capitalization, which are included in the study of nouns and pronouns. Know how to spell. Spelling goes in getting familiar with words and more words. A dictionary will help.
Be familiar with sentence faults, and practice how to express yourself clearly. All these, and you will get through one by one. As one poet says about writing in a metaphor, “Writing is learning bird by bird.” And don’t worry if errors come, “No grammar is perfect.” Learning how to write requires checking and revising, among others.
Finally, read a lot. If possible, read the news everyday. Also, one article or one story each day would help. After learning the rules, break them and write in your own voice or style.